I had a wonderful conversation with a local French professor this morning, mainly about the new flow and focus relating to the divine feminine. Both of us have experienced years of feeling driven, or being judged (internally and externally) for what we do rather than accepted for what we are. As women, and especially professional women, we constantly compare ourselves to a vision of ‘the perfect woman’ who is impeccably hospitable, generous, hard-working, polite, self-sufficient, well-dressed, pleasant, and graceful.
What does this have to do with chocolate? As my readers know, I created and now run the Church of Chocolate. Why chocolate? Because chocolate is just like Spirit/God/higher intelligence: always available, always inspired, and making every situation better. The flavor of chocolate is passionate, brilliant, delicious, intense, magnificent. My friend remarked that chocolate is also intensely immanent. When we eat high-quality chocolate, it grounds us in the moment, in the Now, with a passion and intensity that (we assume) God feels all the time.
Even better, chocolate stands at that permeable boundary between quantities and qualities. As Pirsig writes in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (pub. 1974), quality awareness is primarily a relationship between the interior and exterior; Ken Wilber examines this further in his four-quadrant theory, which examines the relationships between interiors and exteriors at different levels of complexity within holon theory. That’s all very interesting on an intellectual level, but chocolate really brings it home, on a visceral level.
As Sandra Boynton says in Chocolate: the Consuming Passion, the philosophy of chocolate is… speculative at best. How do we know chocolate exists? By tasting it. However, by the time we have tasted it, the chocolate has disappeared, which had everyone stumped (and not a little depressed) for quite some time. In the Church of Chocolate, of course, we know that the very existence of chocolate demonstrates the reality of a Supreme Bean.
My point (and I do have one) is that chocolate has an immediacy that most experiences lack. Humans constantly bounce back and forth between the past (thoughts, memories, pain) and the future (thinking, anticipation, fear). Only in the Now can we make choices, be present in the body, or align with our unique divine blueprints. In fact, only in the Now can the Divine work in us and through us; in/from that alignment, we become the eyes, words, hands and feet of God, co-creating on this planet. Enjoying chocolate thus becomes a spiritual act. In fact, all chocophiles know that savoring really good chocolate IS a religious experience.
This immediacy of presence relates exactly to the receptivity we experience in the divine feminine inbreath of God – in contrast to the constant, expansive activity of the divine masculine outbreath of God. Of course, there are many wonderful aspects of the divine masculine, but for women this leads to a grave imbalance in our lives. On the other hand, since 1987 we have moved steadily into the divine feminine, as individuals, and naturally it’s taking the culture a while to catch up (or rather, to shift its center of gravity, as philosopher Ken Wilber would say). In the meantime, we have all been trained to feeling driven, to equating busyness with productivity, and productivity with excellence. We have learned to expect productivity in every arena, regardless of our natural talents, skills, or internal programming.
What we need to learn is how to rest, how to relax and enjoy who we are as women, rather than feeling like inadequate men. And this circles back round to chocolate. When I offer my fabulous chocolate truffles to my women guests, half the time they refuse or defer tasting them because they’re busy, they’re dieting, or they believe that they cannot receive without reciprocating. Yet the divine feminine is all about receiving, about pleasure, and the delight of being in the Now. In both Greek and Latin, host and guest are essentially the same words, pointing to the relationship between giving and receiving. How can anyone give if the other person cannot receive? How can we be productive unless we refill that well through rest and recuperation? When did work and pleasure become so separated that we have to set aside our daily tasks in order to enter a different apartment labeled ‘sweet’ or ‘delicious’ or ‘recreation’ in order to enjoy our lives?
More receiving, more passion, pleasure and delight are precisely what the divine feminine is about, and this is why the Church of Chocolate motto is ‘Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we may diet.” So stop being a workaholic, put down your laptop, and go eat the best chocolate you can find: savor each morsel, with attention, presence and awareness.
Be Here Now… with chocolate.